When you are in dispute, it is often not just the issues that cause a clash; personalities also play a big part in disputes and dispute resolution.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation when whatever someone says, it grates on you?
This may mean that your personality type and preferences are different although there is another school of thought too.
In the world of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), one basis of teaching is that “if you spot it, you’ve got it”. It could be that after some honest reflection, the traits noted reflect some of your own traits.
Whatever the reason for your response, if you wish someone to come into agreement with you then giving thought to their preferences and position is vital. Spending time gaining insight into their preferences and position will be time well spent.
This exploration of personality type does not require you to undertake a complete psychometric test profile.
There is useful information to be found on communicating with different personality types on sites such as DiSC and Insights Discovery. Both identify personality types and how information is best communicated to secure improved understanding.
Some might ask why it is necessary to change their approach to accommodate someone else’s preferences? It’s a fair question. The likelihood is that if you are facing some form of ongoing conflict and working to your own preferences hasn’t worked so far. So, having the insight and ability to change demonstrates great flexibility. If this provides a better opportunity to reach an agreement, surely it’s work worth a go?
Mediators facilitate negotiations between different personality types all the time. One of the great joys of life is that we are indeed all different and with that it can also be one of the great challenges.
Give yourself the best possible chance of reaching an agreement and, if in doubt, use a mediator to facilitate the process.
If you would like to mediate a dispute, get in touch using the Contacts page.
